#AMALAYER indeed

  1. We see a video of a hysterical woman going ballistic on a lady security guard. (note that I did not use the word “Lady” because it does not fit the person)
  2. The Lady Security Guard looked very calm and composed while being verbally abused.
  3. We notice the incorrect pronunciations and grammar and start to make fun of it.
  4. The internet has identified another person to be Cyber-Bullied not realizing the effects of this on her personal and professional life.

   Taking a few steps back trying to analyze things about this video, I realized a couple things.  First, any reactions are initially triggered by an initial action. Secondly, we don’t  really know what the reason was for her to overreact like this.  She may or may not have a reasonable explanation for reacting like this and the only way for us to find out is if we understood the whole story.  I am curious as to what the Lady Security Guard did to trigger this kind of reaction from her.

   To close this short opinion of mine. I am not in any way saying that what she did was right.  There are more civil ways of dealing with whatever it is that happened and this is not one of them.

   I hope she tells the whole story so people will understand.


And women thought they knew everything about cheating.

12 Surprising Facts About Cheating
by The Hurtful Truth

Fact #1: Most men are still in love with their wives when they cheat.
     Men who cheat haven’t fallen out of love; they’ve become unsatisfied with the current sate of it. “Cheating usually occurs in the phase of companionate love, when couples begin to settle down, have kids and solidify the life being built together,” says clinical psychologist Andra Brosh, PhD. While they’re fulfilled in some areas, like being a provider, the romance may be missing. “We more often think of women complaining about a lack of romance, but men feel it, too,” says Dr. Brosh. “They frequently suffer in silence, believing they can’t get what they want from their spouses.” To avoid this in your marriage, plan nights out together, set aside time for sex and discuss hopes and dreams–not just workdays and your son’s last soccer game.

Fact #2: Men usually cheat with women they know.
     Cheaters don’t generally pick up random women in bars. “My first husband cheated on me with a childhood friend,” says Diane* from New York City. “His family was close to her family, so they never lost touch.” Intimacy expert Mary Jo Rapini explains, “A lot of women think that all cheating women are floozies-not true. The relationships are usually friendships first.” In fact, more than 60% of affairs start at work, according to Focus on the Family. A good idea: Make sure your husband feels more connected to you than to his business partner. “Spouses go to work, take care of their kids and do separate things at night. That has to stop,” says Rapini. She suggests always going to bed at the same time and cuddling.

Fact #3: Men cheat to save their marriages.
     “Men love their spouses, but they don’t know how to fix their relationship problems, so they go outside their marriages to fill any holes,” says licensed marriage and family therapist Susan Mandel, PhD. Men want it all and have the skewed notion that another woman will make the longing for something more disappear. Then, they can live happily ever after with their wife–and their mistress–without confronting the real issues.

Fact #4: Men hate themselves after affairs.
     You may think of cheaters as men without morals, but while they may like what they did, they tend to despise themselves after their indiscretions. “If he puts his ego to the side, he’ll feel like a piece of garbage,” says relationship expert Charles J. Orlando, author of The Problem with Women…Is Men. “After all, he’s betraying another human being who he claims to care about, so that takes its toll on every part of his psyche.” A cheater can feel as though he’s failed as a man.

Fact #5: Cheaters often get friskier with their wives when affairs begin.
     Just because a husband’s touchy-feely doesn’t mean his marriage is on firm footing. “When a man starts cheating, he becomes hyperactive sexually,” says Rapini, explaining that his sex drive has been awakened, and his wife is still the one with whom he feels most comfortable sexually. If you notice a sudden change in your husband’s sex drive, it should raise a red flag. Be on the lookout for the switch to flip off again. “After the affair is solid, he may begin to pull away,” says Rapini.

Fact #6: Women cheat just as much as men, and their affairs are more dangerous.
     An Indiana University study shows that men and women cheat at the same rate. But “the reasons the sexes cheat are different,” says Orlando. He explains women are more likely to cheat for emotional satisfaction. “Online cheating–without any physical contact–is the most damaging type of infidelity,” says Orlando. Becoming emotionally invested in another person means you’ve likely checked out of your marriage. But if it’s just sex, it’s less about attachment and more about a hurtful mistake.

Fact #7: A wife often knows her husband’s cheating.
     How could Tiger Woods’s ex, Elin Nordegren, and Arnold Schwarzenegger’s ex, Maria Shriver, not have known what their high-profile husbands were up to? They probably did, but couldn’t bear to acknowledge it. “At one level, I knew, but my denial was so strong,” says Lily* from Toronto, Canada. “The pain, had I accepted it at that time, would have been too horrendous, so I had to process it slowly.” According to Dr. Brosh, the jilted celebrities were likely doing the same thing: choosing what they could live with for the sake of their kids or to avoid humiliation and the fallout.

Fact #8: A couple will never work it out when the husband is in the midst of an affair.
     They could agree to work on things, but it won’t matter. If he’s still in the throes of a hot, new romance, nothing a woman does will drag him out of it. “He’s got such positivity happening, without all the drama that exists in the established relationship,” says Orlando. The marriage will likely fail, unless he decides on his own accord that life isn’t better with the other woman. So the key is prevention. Continue to be the woman he first fell for throughout your marriage. “Women often turn from a loving girlfriend into a nagging wife. Men aren’t attracted to that.” Dole out compliments and surprise him with sex–don’t just yell at him about that towel on the bathroom floor, suggests Dr. Mandel.

Fact #9: Affairs can often fix a marriage.
     Is infidelity the kiss of death for a couple? Not always. Although a new relationship is exciting, “an affair can rekindle the marriage,” says Orlando. “Men realize who they want for the rest of their lives and that the new relationship isn’t as perfect as they thought.” But think hard before returning to a cheater. “Flings can highlight how little self-control someone has,” explains Orlando. Still, if it was truly a one-time slip, it’s possible to get back on track.

Fact #10: Even after rebuilding the marriage, a husband may still miss the affair.
     Sadly, he might love his wife and want to salvage the marriage, but he doesn’t totally forget about the affair. “He might miss the great things about the other woman-fun, zero responsibilities, sex, the rush or the chase–but oftentimes he misses how he feels about himself when he was with her, which is more damaging if he’s trying to return to his marriage,” says Orlando. Again, acting as you did when the relationship was new could help.

Fact #11: A cheater knows he’s hurting the woman he loves, tearing his family apart and sacrificing his honor.
     A man may realize the negative impact on his wife, family and himself, but still continue an affair. How? “It’s all in the perception of the cheater,” says Orlando. “If he feels unwanted, undervalued and taken for granted, his personal needs of being wanted, valued and appreciated will win out.”

Fact #12: The wife’s not to blame if her husband cheats on her.
     Realize this: If your husband is unfaithful, it’s not your fault, no matter what people say. “When a man cheats, he’s making a conscious choice to do it,” says Dr. Brosh. “The idea of being pushed into the arms of another woman is an expression, not a reality.” Orlando echoes this sentiment: “Men don’t cheat because of who she is; they cheat because of who they’re not,” he says. “The ‘fault’ is that the signs of disconnection have been ignored by both parties.” 

 *Names have been changed
 Original article appeared on WomansDay.com.
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A Drunk Driver’s Way Out

  Driving home from the mall with my daughter sleeping, I switched the radio to an AM station hoping to listen to some news.  I came across a radio station where someone was being interviewed about preventing drunk drivers from driving but still get home safely with their cars.  All you need to do is call them and ask for their help, for a minimal fee of course (your life is definitely worth more than that fee). 

  The service is called “Driver-on-Call” offered by Lifeline Rescue.  The concept is based on the saying “prevention is better than cure”.  They will provide you a trained professional driver to drive you home in your own car.  It makes perfect sense as one of his explanation regarding this service was that it will cost more sending an ambulance with at least 3-4 paramedics in case you get into a car accident plus the possibility of serious injuries or even getting you killed.  A few points that I think is important about the service is enumerated below.

  1. When you call them, they will not ask why but just send you assistance. Them acting first before asking questions ensures that your safety is placed above everything else. 
  2. They will send 2 people and a car to your location in approximately 30 mins. The first person is there to drive your car for you and the second is to ensure that the first person has a means of transportation after you’re safely home.
  3. This is not only exclusive to drunk people that needs to drive home but also to those who have difficulty driving, e.g. sprained ankle rendering you incapable of driving, under medication and is not in any condition to be driving a vehicle.
  4. Lastly, the service costs only Php500.00. Your own life is definitely worth more than this.

  Being someone who had first-hand experience wrecking a car because of driving under the influence, I find this service very reassuring and comforting. However, we need to remember that they are not a taxi service and should only be called whenever there’s an emergency.

For more information regarding the service, visit http://www.lifeline.com.ph/

To book a driver, please dial Lifeline’s Hotline 16-911 or alternative numbers 839-2520 to 30 and 0917-54-16911. It is preferable that 30 minute advanced notification be given to allow for the timely dispatch of the Lifeline vehicle. Fee shall be in the amount of Php500.00 per trip within Metro Manila, paid after the service.